For a week now I've been harboring some anger toward a friend because of an incindent that took place a week ago. It hurt me (not physically) and shattered me for days. I was truly angry and hurt.
I had nearly decided that because I had not addressed it immediately that I was going to let it go, but I would not let it happen again. However, an opportunity presented itself a few days ago and I tried to address the issue. It was blown off and nothing was resolved. I made up my mind that I would not bring it up again, but as I said, I would not let it happen again.
Well, I was asked about it it this evening. I told my friend that I was not going to bring it up again, but they stopped me and apologized profusely. They told me that looking back now they realized how horrible they were. I thanked my friend for the apology and told them that their apology meant a great deal to me. It was all that I had been wanting for a week.
Because of this incident and the way things unfolded throughout the week I was truly afraid that our friendship was doomed. I was afraid of what I thought was a severe change in my friend. After our discussion this evening, I realize this is not the case and our friendship is fine.
I really need to learn how to stand up to people. However, given what I learned this evening, I needed to just let this lie for a few days. Standing up to the friend at the time would not have accomplished anything.